I decided to do this post because I heard something the other day that just really hurt my soul. It made me contemplate on things for a good minute. Things like dating which we all like to do and breakups which most of us dislike going through (I know I do), but before jumping ahead of myself, let’s start this out with the “talking” stage.
This is where we try and find out enough information about the person we like to decide whether or not we should be with them. Some people take this stage quite a bit more serious than others that means asking a friend, their exes maybe or just listening to rumors that ironically come up when you guys start talking. Personally for me, I like finding things out on my own, it feels better and it gives me more pride. If the guy turns out to be a douche then, so be it, the only person I will have to blame is MYSELF, my life, my choices right?
After making it official I’ve come to realize it’s typically ‘good’ for the first couple month or so (if it even lasts that long). You feel special and in love, you feel loved and most of us want comfort and attention that we may even lie to get it. Don’t say I’m talking non sense because we all have lied to get “something”. It could be matters relating past relationships that make you feel more like the bigger, genuine person, or you could just be overall faking it being someone you’re not.
My biggest issue with relationships however, is the break up stage which many of us act so immature it breaks my heart, applause to the mature and grounded minds out there that can actually do well out of a ‘bad situation’ (Break-up). I’m GOOD with “ending things cool” but what really makes me mad is when someone lie to me and uses some excuse that we both know won’t add up a week later. No matter how much you ask for honesty you don’t get it. People will complain about something they need but as it turns out, they lack it too. I don’t want to say its hypocrisy, but it is. 😐
7 Comments
Aiesha
Realest thing I’ve seen all day. I think honesty .. Loyalty is everything. The worst thing is finding out from some else.
June 12, 2015 at 11:49 pmjameala henry
Totally true krissy n i thnk guys lie becase thy think we cant handle the truth and at the same time they don’t wanna feel guilty about what ever reason their lying about because deep down what their doing is wrong and their reason for wanna leave or break up is ridiculous so they try to come up with a good enough reason their please with and jus leave us hanging and puzzled and nothing is more upsetting than when a dude u damn well know is into you and pulls the plug
June 13, 2015 at 12:31 amKristen
Beyond true, thank you for your comment Jameala 🙂
June 13, 2015 at 6:23 pmVictor
As far as ik I can only speak for my self and as I guy I have lied before but it was never abt thinking you females can’t handle the truth … Sometimes u guys have the tendency to get paranoid and over think things …. And I don’t lie on major things … U ask a question ill give a straight answer cause lies only involve another lie to cover the previous one which is complete non sense to me ….. And aiesha life is a learning process and trufully not all guys are the same as cliche as it sounds and I hope that females on a whole can grasp that concept
June 14, 2015 at 3:37 amKristen
I do agree with you Victor, we girls do get paranoid easily and start to over think things, but I think it only goes as far as our partners let’s us have on. Other than that, some of us just have “issues”
June 14, 2015 at 3:50 amDavid
“People will complain about something they need but as it turns out, they lack it too.” Realest thing I’ve seen we all lack something but a person who values your efforts wont complain they will embrace and work with it.
June 14, 2015 at 3:47 amVictor
But never the less a lie is lie no matter how small and if so aren’t we at a age where any couple can sit and discuss their problems/issues … Its all apart of being in a relationship …. And I’m sure there would prolly be less breakups as well
June 14, 2015 at 4:02 am